2021 / January

It has no redeeming features, and we’re really proud of that

Another Boring B-Side by Morris Minor and the Majors

Photo by Pierre Gui on Unsplash

I’m doing lots of DIY at the moment. I actually quite like doing DIY. It makes a nice change to be doing work with my hands and not just my head. But if there’s one thing I’ve had to learn to make my enjoyment of DIY possible, it’s been not to be a perfectionist. Knowing when is ‘good enough’ makes all the difference.

It’s this sentiment of not having to make everything perfect that inspires this week’s song choice Another Boring B-Side by Morris Minor and the Majors. As its title suggests, it’s actually the B-side (remember those!) to the single Stutter Rap released in 1988. And the song celebrates, well, in its own words:

Well, now’s the time that you’ll be made aware, that we didn’t spend much time on this. We didn’t think you’d mind … It’s another boring B-side. Another load of tatt … You’re listening to the product of considerable neglect …

I think it’s a great perspective! It’s part not just doing something because it’s just what people expect, playing with our expectations in a joyful light-hearted way. And it’s also part saying everything I do doesn’t need to have to be perfect.

One of the things that strikes me from my coaching conversations with people over the years is just how much these concepts are not really understood by us as humans. We don’t have to do everything perfectly. We don’t need to do things just because someone somewhere might expect it. We can just have fun and enjoy!

It’s not that we shouldn’t do things to the best of our ability. In fact, the A-Side to this tune Stutter Rap is itself a comedic testament to doing your best without having to be perfect. It’s just that for our own wellbeing, it’s just as important to know when something doesn’t require our best effort. When we can look at something we’ve done and declare:

It has no redeeming features, and we’re really proud of that.

Need to learn how and when not to do your best? Why not consider booking an appointment with the author, Dr Dave Wood?

Another Boring B-Side is the B-side (!) to Stutter Rap by Morris Minor and the Majors.

Author

hello@realigncoaching.co.uk
Providing innovative, high quality community life coach training and professional, social skills and wellbeing workshops at an affordable cost. Dave is a former Senior Probation Officer, now founder and director of Metanoeo CIC, Realign Coaching and Theolotweet Academy. He also lectures in Psychosocial Analysis and Community Wellbeing and is a community life coach and trainer. Dave holds a BA in Bible and Theology, BA(Hons) in Community Justice, MA in Criminal Justice and PhD in Theology. He is a member of the Association for Coaching, a Fellow of the School for Social Entrepreneurs, a Fellow of the Higher Education Academy and also a community member of Forum Housing Association.